Psychologist Says Don’t Skip Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day approaching, many couples won’t be celebrating the way they usually do. Not only has the global pandemic caused an economic crisis, but it also raised tension among couples.

Dr. Sarah Paper, a clinical psychologist with Allina Health said because everyone is home, there’s a lot more interactions. This can often add strain in relationships.

Paper suggests spending some alone time, but she’s encouraging couples to not skip out on Valentine’s Day.

“Valentines Day might feel kind of cheesy or silly for some people, but it can be a reminder that this is an important relationship and this is a really important time, even though its difficult to focus on taking care of each other and ourselves,” Paper said.

Paper said it’s important to model for children a good healthy relationship dynamic. That could mean expressing how to receive and give affection as well as how to resolve issues.

The doctor added that a romantic getaway during Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be outside the home. A few suggestions would be to have dinner at home, but maybe eat in a different spot than where you normally would eat. Or have a picnic in the living room and dress up.

For the couples who might have unspoken expectations during Valentine’s Day, Paper said that can be a source of conflict. 

“I would say to speak those unspoken expectations. The only way people know what you want is to say what you want,” she said.

If you’re spending the holiday alone, Paper advises to take care of yourself and don’t wait on anyone else. She said stop focusing on what others are boasting and find things you can boast about too.

“When you are happy and confident, a lot of times that does attract people. They see that and they want to join in and be with you,” said Paper.

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